Me and my transsisters need to hear what's on your mind.As I've stated in this blog and will continue to do so, my guiding transition principle since I started in 1994 is that I strive to be a compliment to my African descended cis sisters and womanhood in general. I believe the best way to do that is get regular input from and talk to someone who is and has dealt with the issues and challenges inherent in evolving into womanhood with a female body from birth.
Since I'm a Black trans female, the best way to become a quality Black woman and deal with the issues inherent in navigating society with a Black female body is to have conversations and dialogue with Black cis women on a regular basis.
So in my sistahcircle I have cis women breaking it down to me on a regular basis what it means to be a 21st century Black woman. They have had the body from birth, been socialized in the role, experienced the good, bad and indifferent parts of femininity and done so for decades.
I've also been fortunate to have in my life women who aren't scurred to put their size 8's up my behind (or whatever shoe size they wear) up my behind when I started tripping or trying too hard. It made me a better, more authentic person by dealing with the constructive criticism and helpful hints they provided and handling what I needed to deal with.
And yes, even though I transitioned in 1994, I'm still evolving as a person. While I realize I'm going to make mistakes, I still strive to be a compliment to Black womanhood, not a detriment to it.
Got enough negative examples on both sides reflecting poorly on Black womanhood out there already.