Thursday, March 20, 2014
It Is Revolutionary To Be Trans
And the world tries to send us that message in multiple ways. We have the cisgender know-nothings who in spite of overwhelming visual, historical, cultural and medical evidence continue to deny there's no such thing as trans people. Christofascists who are now trying to retool and peddle their failed ex-gay conversion therapies in our direction. Media people who try to have disrespectful, insulting genitalia centered conversations about who they think we are without having us at the table.
And sadly, there are the wastes of DNA who use extreme violence to kill us as we navigate the world.
Yes, it is a monumental task to try to navigate being trans in a world that can be at times brutally hostile to us.
But one of the things that will get us through it is overcoming the shame, guilt and fear that the hostile world and others try to saddle us with by turning it into self-esteem and self love.
It is a self esteem and self love built upon a rock solid foundation of pride in being a trans person, faith in yourself and whatever you call the Higher Power and knowledge of our proud history.
I love this quote by Dr. Louise Hart in which she says, "Self-esteem is as important to our well being as legs to a table. It is essential for mental and physical health and happiness."
While it can seem like we trans people in the borrowed words of Denny Upkins are ice skating uphill in our ongoing attempts to build that healthy self esteem in the face of a world that consistently pushes the message we don't exist, it doesn't mean that it will never happen for us either. You can and must as a trans human being as a necessary survival strategy develop healthy self-esteem in order to navigate a world hostile to us.
We unfortunately have to work a lot harder at not only achieving it, but maintaining it.
But when you do achieve that goal, it makes it so much easier to be out, proud of who you are and the wonderful evolutionary human being who just happens to be visibly trans you are.
When you love yourself, consistently work on building your self-esteem and live your life to the best of your abilities, you can then begin the revolutionary process of being seen, visible and living your trans flavored life.
If cis people inside and outside the TBLG community don't like it, tough. They can #bemad and #staymad about the fact you are a revolutionary, and it is revolutionary to be the wonderful person of trans experience you are.