Thursday, December 05, 2013

Time To Deal With The Contentious Relationship Between Cis Black Men And Cis Black Women

I commented on that disgusting video earlier this week that has been generating somewhat heated discussion across the Blackosphere and beyond.  

But in the wake of me posting my response to it, it also gave me time to contemplate why has the relationship between cis Black women and cis Black men gotten this contentious? 

Is it as bad as this video indicates?

I sincerely hope it isn't.  I hope it was just a random event that happened to have a camera around to capture it.. 

My sis Laverne Cox mentioned during one of her speeches at UNC-Chapel Hill a few weeks ago that she was saddened to hear the go-to gender identifying terms among younglings are not male and female, but the n-word and the b-word.

Ouch.  And yeah, that's a problem.  Then toss into this volatile mix misogyny, stir in resentment on both sides, bake and voila, drama will ensue. 

Some elements of our Black male population are resenting the fact that sistahs are not only getting their educations and degrees, but getting the stacks of Benjamins and CEO positions that come with those degrees.

Some sistahs are upset that when they do make the sacrifices to get that sheepskin, elevate their status, and reach that point in their lives they are ready to get married and have children with men who have the same status levels and ethnic background they do, they irritatingly see that pool of brothers increasingly getting coupled with non-Black women..

Whether this is just one of the issues feeding into that drama between Black men and Black women, or there are others to add to these two I briefly mentioned, whatever the drama is that's causing heightened agitation between Black men and Black women and damaging our potential to form long lasting romantic relationships with each other needs to be squashed as soon as possible. 

We have a long laundry list of problems to deal with as a community that need our undivided attention to solve together without having adding hostility between Black men and Black women to it.    .

And if it means we Black trans men and trans women end up being the ones who step up to role model what a healthy relationship looks like between Black men and Black women to the cis Black community and the world, then let's get busy Black trans community doing so.

The time has come for us as a community to deal with the contentious relationship between Black cis men and cis women.  

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