Y'all know I love my people and my culture across the African Diaspora. But damn, I wish elements of y'all would grow up and join the 21st century when it comes to gender identity issues.
One of the things I get tired of in the Black community is the at times willful ignorance around gender and gender identity issues. News flash, they just don't affect trans folks, they affect all of us because everyone has a gender identity and expresses it in different ways.
As I have pointed out before, you get half your genetic material from
mommy, half from daddy. We are all blends and combinations of traits
from our parents.
As medical science is increasingly proving, there's a
thin line and series of events that happen during pregnancy that
determines whether you come out of mommy's womb in a masculine or
One of the things I'm also tired of is the scourge of transmisogyny being gleefully spread by the TERF's and
clueless cis women for the last 40 years. While we trans women are the main targets of it, because
the right wingers are giving up on their War Against Marriage Equality,
they are shifting targets and money to ratchet up the War on Transwomen.
And because they are doing that, their sliming of transwomen will also have collateral damage effects in
terms of that transmisogyny backed by right wing money hitting Black cis women as well.
a lot of peeps don't realize is that when you transition, in addition
to having to deal with sexism, being walking targets for sexual assault,
and all the issues that come with walking Planet Earth in a feminine body, Black trans women also inherit all the baggage that Black cis women have
had to deal with for the last four centuries in terms of the 'unwoman' meme. So what am I talking about when I say the 'unwoman' meme?
society has set up one group of women (white women) as the paragons of
beauty, virtue and fertility for all women to aspire to, then it stands
to reason that you also have to come up with a counternarrative of women you
point to that are the ones you don't want others to wish to aspire to be and hate on..
And guess what group of women got that narrative assigned to them? Yep, Black women.
They are called every pejorative you can throw at them. They are called 'ugly', even by fools that are social scientists. Even their own men, who are supposed to be their defenders and protectors join in the assault on Black womanhood by leveling a weaponized level of the b-word at them courtesy of gangsta rap music.
And one of the words they'll get to throw at cis Black women as a weaponized insult since the b-word will increasingly come under attack is the t-word.
you're 4' 11", 5' 11" or 6' 11" with your heels on, you don't have that classic Coke bottle feminine curves, are on the darker end of those 23 shades of Black skin tones, don't possess the sistah booty, are an athlete or don't fit the
stereotypical standards of femininity, your femininity will get called into
question, especially as a Black woman.
One of the pejoratives they will use while doing so is the t-word.
And it won't be just Black men engaged in the process of doing so, it will also be Black women policing the femininity of other Black women using 'that's a man' shade.
If you think I'm kidding about that, check out the Black gossip blogosphere and see the comments that get aimed at Wendy Williams, Fantasia, Brittney Griner and Joseline Hernandez
If Black cis women are getting their femininity disrespected, what hope is there for Black transwomen to even have ours acknowledged by the greater Black community? Until we girls like us are recognized as the beautiful women we are inside and out, it's going to be difficult to bring down the levels of anti-trans hate violence the transmisogyny fuels inside our community..
Bottom line Black community is you need to cease and desist with aiming transmisogyny not only at us, but at Black cis women. It's not cool, and the off the charts anti-trans violence directed toward is is spilling over to affect the lives of cis Black women .