Along with the media in Brisbane misgendering and sensationalizing the whole thing also came a Guardian post by Amy Gray that took the opposite angle.
Gray's post asserted that it was masculine entitlement that led to Prasetyo's death.
That Guardian article generated some commentary on my FB page when I posted it, and the most thought provoking one of all so far was from Troy, whose trans attracted man videos you see pop up on TransGriot from time to time.
In his comment on the article Troy remarked, "Think of the last few trans women that have been murdered, thrown on the streets, dumped in the garbage. It seems their killers wanted to erase them from existence."
"That's why I'm so adamant about language. When you dehumanize someone it's easier to justify killing them."
Exactly, Troy. Ever since I transitioned 20 years ago and became aware of the horrific levels of anti-trans violence aimed at us, there have been times when I have been stunned by the extreme level of violence that was aimed at transfeminine murder victims.
Yaz'min Shancez's killer shot her, then burned her body. Shellie Hilliard's body in Detroit was dismembered and burned by her convicted killer. I remember reading about other trans murders on the Remembering Our Dead list in which extreme violence was part of it.
One of my suspicions as to why that happens is because of the virulent level anti-trans hate can reach at times with cisgender males, as Joanna Cifredo noted while recounting an incident that happened to her in her blog post Passing To Survive.
That night will forever be ingrained in my memory. It was the night that I looked straight into the eyes of transphobia. I don’t think “phobia” is even the right word, he wasn’t scared of me, just the opposite, I was scared of him, instead I came face to face with pure, undiluted, hatred. As I rode home I began to think about the paralyzing fear that engulfed every pore of my being, and I began to sob uncontrollably. I started to think of all of my sisters who came face to face with hatred and weren’t as lucky as I was to have someone there defending them and were met with their mortalityJoanna is describing an instance in which she came face to face with someone who literally wanted to erase her existence from the face of this Earth because of her trans feminine status. That person probably would have eagerly done so if it hadn't been for the fact there was a door and another cis male keeping that from happening in the incident she describes in the post
It's the sudden nature in which a transwoman can go from having a pleasant day to fearing for her life that keeps us on edge as we navigate our lives.
My transsisters, this is just one of the things that estrogen based lifeforms unfortunately have to deal with It is dangerous at times to walk this planet in a feminine body.
It gets even more problematic when that feminine body is a trans feminine one. You have cisgender males who mistakenly feel they have the right to violently harm or kill a trans woman simply because the transwoman's presence in their space at that given moment for whatever specious reason offends them.
And I suspect this unfortunately happened to our sis Mayang. For whatever reason, the man who professed to love her, killed and dismembered her before killing himself.
How much transphobia played a role in this domestic violence situation we will probably never know, but the bottom line is still the same.
Our sis is dead at the hands of a man who appears to have wanted to erase her existence