Friday, November 23, 2018
Why Including In TDOR's People Who Commit Suicide Is A Bad Idea
I'm hearing online chatter about the topic of including trans people who commit suicide in these TDOR memorials. That's a bad idea, and I'm going to lay out the case why it;s a bad idea.
A trans person who is killed due to a murder doesn't have the choice of and control over when and how they die. It is a random act of violence that deserves public condemnation, media attention when it happens, and focus to ensure the perpetrator of that murder is tried and convicted for it.
If we are seeking to reduce suicides in the trans community, glamorizing them at a future TDOR is not the pathway to accomplish that goal. We need to be as a community unequivocally encouraging people to live their best trans lives, not take them.
As leaders in the trans community, we need to be possibility models encouraging trans people to choose life. We also need to as leaders be pointing out that one of the powerful ways to send society the middle finger for hating on trans people at is to unapologetically live your life.
recently revealed in an interview that she once considered over a decade ago committing suicide. I and the community are glad she didn't, because we now get to witness her groundbreaking award winning acting talent and have the benefit of her advocacy.
She is also a role model to many in our community, and I get to call her a friend. But all the fabulousness of Ms. Cox we get to witness would have been lost forever to us if she had followed through 17 years ago on those thoughts of suicide.
Every trans life is a precious one. By committing suicide, every trans life lost that way makes the TERF's and evilgelicals smile. It also denies us the opportunity to get to know your amazing self. and deprives us and the world of your talents and future contributions to our community.
It has worked for 20 years. If it ain't broke, it doesn't need to be fixed or altered without a compelling reason to do so.
What I will suggest is that if people want to discuss trans suicides, they are welcome to do so in a conversation or event centering the subject that is held during Trans Awareness Week from November 12-19.