Thursday, November 24, 2011

Transpeeps Need Family Love During The Holidays, Too

The holiday season is cranking up once again and for the next month we'll be inundated with holiday specials showing people with their families. 

We'll have commercials trying to sell us stuff with the same returning home for the holidays theme.  We'll be inundated with Christmas music on heavy rotation on our favorite radio stations heavy on the home and family message and all the other trappings of the Festival of Conspicuous Consumption and its peace on earth and good will to all message.

I'm blessed to be one of those transpeople that can not only pick up the phone and call my parents and other family members on a regular basis, I get to hang out with them during the holiday season and beyond in the New Year at reunions and other events.

However, there are some people in the trans community that aren't so blessed.  Because they are living their lives as their true selves, their families have rejected them   Add to it the everyday slights, discrimination, outright disrespect and denial of our humanity aimed at transpeople combined with the relentless drumbeat of happy family life depicted in the media, you have a perfect storm of events that can depress a person in that situation.

If it is not checked in time that can and has led to people in the trans community taking their lives.

The pain of rejection hurts.  The pain gets more intense during the holiday season, and hence our heightened concern during the holiday season for our trans community members that are struggling emotionally to get through the holiday season.  

So with another holiday season upon us, let's be cognizant of the fact there are people in our community that can't go home for the holidays.  There are folks whose families will not invite them to sit at the family Thanksgiving table or get to eat Christmas dinner this year, much less even call them or drop them off a Christmas gift.

If you find yourself in that situation of not having contact with your blood family, combat the holiday blues by creating a family of your own and building holiday traditions with them.  If you know of people in the community who are going to be alone today or on Christmas Day, extend an invitation for them to have dinner at your holiday table.   They'll deeply appreciate having a destination to go to during this holiday season and you'll have somebody else to share that turkey with.


Failing that, there's always some organization in town who will need volunteers to help them serve Thanksgiving or Christmas dinners to the homeless or less fortunate among us. 

Consider doing that to take your mind off the fact you're not with your blood family on this day.   

Yes, transpeople need family love every day of the year, but that need is even more pronounced during the holiday season.     

And if other people won't give it to you, be tough minded enough to give that gift to yourself. 

Happy Thanksgiving TransGriot Readers

You Canadian TransGriot readers got your Thanksgiving grub on last month and today is the day that I and the rest of us in the States get to do so.

We get our opportunity to partake in getting our grub on, watching football with family and friends, being thankful for the blessings I and the peeps I love have have received this year and being thankful that Barack Obama is the POTUS and not a Republifool.

I also get to see how well I did picking the three NFL games that will happen later today. 

Wanted to take a moment to wish all of you a Happy Thanksgiving since I'm planning on taking a break from the computer for the day.   May you have abundant blessings, tasty food, pleasant company, minimal drama  and safe travels to and from your holiday destinations.

If there is any breaking news that warrants me interrupting my turkeyfest to post, or I just have some thought that pops into my head I've got to share with you, it'll get posted.  .

And no, I'm not planning on getting up early and going anywhere near a mall or strip shopping center tomorrow depite the fact that everybody in my family knows I'm a night owl. 

Happy Thanksgiving TransGriot readers!

Wednesday, November 23, 2011

Rihanna's The Sexiest Woman Alive

According to Esquire magazine.   And I'd agree with that.

The annual Esquire November issue chronicling female attractiveness has been ongoing since 2004 with the only Black woman to win it prior to RiRi doing so this year being Halle Berry in 2008.  

Yeah, yeah for you nitpickers out there, Halle's biracial.  however she's unequivocally stated multiple times she is and identifies as a Black woman since the 90's.  As far as I and many peeps are concerned, Halle's a sistah.  Halle is also the oldest woman to win it at age 42 and won it after giving birth to her daughter Nahla.

Well, you know what they say about good Black not cracking...

But enough about Halle, this is RiRi's moment to shine.

Robyn Rihanna Fenty definitely has it going on.  She's 23, drop dead gorgeous and once had her legs insured by Lloyd's of London for $1 million dollars.

She just seems to effortlessly exude sexy even though she'll constantly say in interview after interview she's not trying to be a sex symbol.   She's just got it like that.   She's got those hypnotic hazel eyes and she's 178 cm tall  (5' 10") 

You could put a potato sack on her and she'd make it look like haute couture clothing, but looks good in whatever clothing you put on her in addition to changing hairstyles, length and the color of her hair.

So yeah, Esquire definitely made the right choice this year in selecting her as their 2011 Sexiest Woman Alive

Safe Thanksgiving Journeys To My TransGriot Readers

Today is one of the busiest travel days in the United States.  People are converging on airports, train and bus stations or hitting the interstates to go to whatever final destination they are traveling to for Thanksgiving dinner or saying bump it and taking a mini vacation.

I used to dread this period when I worked in the airline biz, but didn't hate on the paycheck because the floodgates got opened on all the overtime and the personnel we needed to efficiently get through it.  

Besides, there were some humorous moments that came out of it at times.  My coworkers and nice passengers also made it bearable and fun to do so. 

Wednesday was a pain, but Thanksgiving Day itself and Saturday were slow and made up for the drama we had to deal with on Monday, Tuesday and today.   

I wanted to take this moment to wish you TransGriot readers in the States who are either traveling to your ultimate destination, see your family and friends or are about to do so, safe journeys up there and back to wherever you're getting your grub on.

And when you do arrive at your Thanksgiving destination get there, may your food be tasty and your day be drama free as well.

Camp Aranu'tiq Adds A Western Campus!

I've talked about Camp Aranu'tiq in a few TransGriot posts.  In case you're wondering what it is, it's a summer camp for trans and gender variant kids aged 8-15 founded by Nick Teich.  Since 2010 the New England based campground and tax exempt 501c3 non profit charity has provided a summer camp experience for our kids to rave reviews, growing buzz about the program and increasing popularity.  

For the 2011 session even though Camp Aranu'tiq shifted to a tuition based model and I was concerned about that, attendance increased from the inaugural 2010 season.  There were 60 campers, 30 staff members and camp counselors who gave the campers a memorable week long experience from August 21-27.   

As to why a summer camp exclusively for trans and gender variant kids is needed?  

What Campers are Saying About Camp Aranu'tiq:.

What are some things you learned at Aranu'tiq?

"I learned that I'm not alone and that I'm not the only one."

"The most important thing that other campers have taught me is that I'm not alone and there are always people I can turn to."

"I learned to be more confident."

"Other campers taught me to be more ok with myself."

"I learned that I have confidence in myself."

"I'm ME and no one can change that."

"There are actually people that I can be myself around without feeling self-conscious that I am trans."
What Parents are Saying About Camp Aranu'tiq: 

"[My child] had such an amazing experience, words can't describe! I am so thankful to you for this camp! What a difference this has made for him."

"Camp has been truly transformative for [my child], for his sense of self, of community, of belonging, of confidence, and also- really fun and funny memories of summer camp that should be part of every child's experience."   

"Thanks for giving everyone such a wonderful week...not only is [my child] talking about going back next year, but he's thinking ahead to becoming a counselor, if possible, when old enough..."

"[My child] can't stop talking about camp. He had such a wonderful week; perhaps one of the best of his life.  It feels like I picked up a different kid!"   
"[My child] had a wonderful time!! He has been sad because he misses it so much. How soon can I sign him up for next year? He will be there for sure! Thanks again for this wonderful camp!!!!!!!!!!"    

"Thanks again for an awesome week for [my child], he is still talking about it and talking about going next year."  

"I have to tell you, [my child] has been so wonderful since we picked her up from camp.  She seems so much more at peace with herself and she has a great attitude...You and your camp are absolutely wonderful- we truly appreciate all the work and effort that you have put into this to help so many kids." 
If you wish to support the camp, in addition to donations, they have a Cafe Press site in which 15% of the purchase price on any of the Camp Aranu'tiq items goes to the organization.

And yes, they can always use people power and volunteers as well.

From the Aranu'tiq blog:

Our second season was August 21-27 and nearly 60 campers and 30 staff had the time of their lives. It was wonderful to see the returning campers ease into the week as though they had never left and at the same time welcome our first-timers. From canoeing to arts and crafts to an all-camp scavenger hunt and an incredible talent show, to say the week was a "success" would be a big understatement.

One thing we know about transgender and gender-variant kids is that many of them worry what their future will hold and if they will be able to lead a "normal" life. 
This is just one story of many that highlights the strength of the Aranu'tiq experience: A young female-to-male camper told his cabin counselor that he was feeling down. She sat with him and told him how lucky he was to have a place like Aranu'tiq where he could be himself because such a place didn't exist when she was a kid. He turned and said to her, "you're transgender?" When she nodded, he looked puzzled and said, "but you are married and have two kids!" She said "you bet!" Without any hesitation he promptly told her that he felt better and wanted to return to playing with his new friends. 

Well, there's exciting news about the upcoming 2012 camping season.    

Camp Aranu'tiq will have in addition to the original undisclosed New England based location one opening in California in July.  Now gender variant kids living on the West Coast and in the Rocky Mountain states have easier access to and can take advantage of what the week long program has to offer.


Camp Aranu'tiq West will have its inaugural session from July 1-7 while the original New England location will kick off its third annual session in August

Registration began November 1 for returning campers and will start December 1 for new campers. 

If you are a parent or relative of a trans or gender variant kid or know of one, if you think Camp Aranu'tiq would be something they would be interested in and benefit from, you can get in contact with Nick Teich for further information about Camp Aranu'tiq and its programs.. 

Nick's e-mail address is nick@camparanutiq.org if you need the enrollment form and further details about Camp Aranu'tiq. 

May Camp Aranu'tiq continue to grow and prosper and have a ginormous 2012 camping season  I'm also looking forward to the day when Camp Aranu'tiq sites open in the Midwest, the Deep South and yes, even my home state of Texas.