TransGriot Note: Commentary from author Pamela Hayes
There has been so much buzz about the trans girl who was attacked and
beaten by a couple of female thugs in a McDonald’s. I have not seen the
video and I have no desire to watch footage of any person being
punched, kicked, throttled or however the attack was administered.
A
number of sites have reported the story, followed by comments galore.
The poor child was disrespected when she was assaulted and many of the
comments that followed were appalling and insensitive.
Conversely,
there were some intelligent comments from people, who felt the beating
was wrong, that the perpetrators should pull serious jail time.
The
trans woman was accused of misleading people, called a freak and a
he/she. Some folks said they felt no compassion for her. One man made an
interesting comment about if a guy is going to live as a woman and if
he doesn’t want any hassle or shit, that he better make sure that he can
keep it on the low (in secret) because if someone realizes what “he” is
doing, trouble will follow.
Well, there’s only a small
percentage of trans women who can live without questions being raised
about them and even if questions are raised, no one has a right
attacking anybody because they disapprove of who that person is.
If
a trans girl is clocked, trouble shouldn’t follow, but it usually does,
which is a perfect segue into reiterating that trans women should learn
self-defense.
Some people said that the victim in the
Mickey Dee’s brawl didn’t fight back, that she allowed her assailants to
punch and kick her and did nothing to physically defend herself.
That
is a classic symptom of low self-esteem. Over the years, I've known a
number of trans women who have been beat up by family members, other
trans people, strangers on the street and they did not fight back. Did
not swear out warrants on people who beat her. One t-girl was severely
beaten by her brothers while her mother watched and did nothing. The
t-girl should have had her brothers arrested. They didn't think twice
about putting their hands on her, so why should she be concerned about
them being thrown in jail and getting criminal records?
Hey,
I could go out there and get my ass kicked, but I ASSURE you that I’m
going to get some punches in. And I will make every effort do damage.
Back
to trans women and self-esteem. Many of the girls have low self-esteem.
Which is deepened when they allow store clerks, nasty citizens to
insult, ridicule, and degrade them and not utter a word in defense of
themselves.
Human beings are not wired like that. Someone insults a
person, usually they don’t accept it and move on. That’s not natural.
And for a trans woman to accept such behavior from people, I wonder if
she feels that she deserves it.
Also, if any person allows
such indignities to take place, it is going to damage them emotionally.
Hurt them psychologically, which could lead to depression as well as
physical repercussions. Studies say that ulcers and other
gastrointestinal disturbances are brought on by stress. And a trans
person lives with put-downs, criticism, discrimination, familial
rejection and all that is most definitely stress. A trans woman can make
her life less stressful simply by fighting back. Simply by defending
herself physically or verbally.
One t-girl told me that
when people make stage whispers about her, that she has to ignore it.
She can’t speak out. “Why the hell not?” I asked, totally confounded.
“See,
I’m supposedly a real woman. So if someone suggested I was a man by
calling me he or sir, I’m not suppose to realize they’re even talking
about me.”
She actually said that to me. And it sounds
like nonsense. I’ll concede that if they don’t say anything to a trans
woman directly, she could ignore it and pretend as if the slur was not
directed at them. Some things are not worth addressing. Some fool off at
a distance saying, “That’s a man” is one of those things. But if
someone is in a trans woman’s face calling her, he, him, sir and it, she
cannot pretend that that is not aimed at her.
Also, I’ve
lived long enough as a trans woman to say unequivocally that people who
instigate trouble with other people are usually insecure and have low
self-esteem. Secure, confident people do not go around bullying other
people.
And looks are not everything, but ever notice that
people who fuck with others tend to look like shit? They rarely look
like cover girls, swimsuit models or models for men’s fitness magazines.
Most of them are unattractive losers. And if necessary, t-women should
inform them of that. She will feel better for it.
In
closing, if you allow people to talk trash to you and don't say anything
in defense of yourself, you're giving them permission to haul off and
hit you.
Monday, April 25, 2011
Sunday, April 24, 2011
Team USA Women vs Team Canada For 2011 World Championship Gold
There will be two familiar foes skating against each other for the 2011 Women's World Ice Hockey Championship in Switzerland on Monday night.. (1 PM CDT) The defending back to back world champions Team USA got off to a slow start in their semifinal rematch with Russia and gave up an early goal, but unleashed 33 first period shots to erase that early deficit and take a 2-1 lead over the upset minded Russians at the end of the first period. Team USA continued to show off their offensive firepower as they advance with a 5-1 win and get a shot at a Women's World Ice Hockey Championship threepeat .
Team USA won the previous IIHF Women's titles in 2008 and 2009.
Meanwhile in the Canada-Finland semifinal rematch with Finland the good news was Finnish goaltender Noora Raty stopped 74 Canuck shots. Unfortunately for them four got past her to propel Team Canada to a 4-1 victory and another clash for women's hockey supremacy between Team USA and Team Canada.. The Finns and Russians will battle each other for the bronze medal on Monday night .
USA! USA! USA!
Canada's going down on Monday!
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women's sports
Happy Easter 'Errbody'!
Well, today is Easter, so I'm going to take the day to go to church, spend some quality time with the family and chill. If any breaking news comes up or I feel the need to express myself, I'll post something on the blog..
Happy Easter 'errbody'
Happy Easter 'errbody'
Saturday, April 23, 2011
Dallas County Commissioners To Hold Tuesday Vote Adding Gender Identity To Non Discrimination Policy
Been following the drama up I-45 in Dallas County that started March 22 when a non discrimination policy was passed for the 7000 county employees that omitted the trans community.
Newly elected Dallas County Judge Clay Jenkins and county commissioner Dr. Elba Garcia were fulfilling a campaign promise and believed that the sexual orientation language would cover the trans community. To their credit, when they were told it wouldn't they began working on adding gender identity language to the just amended policy.
While Judge Jenkins awaited an opinion from the District Attorney he and Dr. Garcia fought to get that elusive third vote to pass the gender identity addition. Dallas area TBLG advocates spoke in front of commissioners court and flooded the court with e-mails and calls in support of the policy change .
Despite that, Commissioner John Wiley Price is undecided, and Commissioner Maurine Dickey, whose district includes the Oak Lawn gayborhood earlier this week disrespectfully came out against it.
According to the Dallas Voice, Commissioners Court has an upcoming April 26 meeting will take place at 9 AM CDT at the county administration building at 411 Elm St. On the agenda is the Court Order that would add “transgender, gender identity and gender expression” to the Dallas County non discrimination policy.
“One thing you could do to help me out on this, is show up en masse,” Jenkins said to the Dallas Voice. “I figure people who don’t want this to pass will probably show up, so it would be nice if we had equal representation there.”
So Dallas area trans peeps and our supporters, Judge Jenkins needs your help. If you can be there, show up on April 26 for that meeting. If you can't, then call or e-mail the Dallas County commissioners court and urge them to vote for the policy .
And yes, you know Moni is going to help you make it easy for you to be agents for your own liberations:
And as always, be nice and respectful while doing so.
County Judge Clay Jenkins – 214-653-7949
Email: Clay.Jenkins@DallasCounty.org
Dist. 1 Maurine Dickey – 214-653-7552
Email: Maurine.Dickey@DallasCounty.org
Dist. 2 Mike Cantrell – 214-653-6100
Email: MCantrell@DallasCounty.org
Dist. 3 John Wiley Price – 214-653-6671
Email: John.Price@DallasCounty.org
Dist. 4 Dr. Elba Garcia – 214-653-6670
Email: Elba.GarciaDDS@DallasCounty.org
Newly elected Dallas County Judge Clay Jenkins and county commissioner Dr. Elba Garcia were fulfilling a campaign promise and believed that the sexual orientation language would cover the trans community. To their credit, when they were told it wouldn't they began working on adding gender identity language to the just amended policy.
While Judge Jenkins awaited an opinion from the District Attorney he and Dr. Garcia fought to get that elusive third vote to pass the gender identity addition. Dallas area TBLG advocates spoke in front of commissioners court and flooded the court with e-mails and calls in support of the policy change .
Despite that, Commissioner John Wiley Price is undecided, and Commissioner Maurine Dickey, whose district includes the Oak Lawn gayborhood earlier this week disrespectfully came out against it.
According to the Dallas Voice, Commissioners Court has an upcoming April 26 meeting will take place at 9 AM CDT at the county administration building at 411 Elm St. On the agenda is the Court Order that would add “transgender, gender identity and gender expression” to the Dallas County non discrimination policy.
“One thing you could do to help me out on this, is show up en masse,” Jenkins said to the Dallas Voice. “I figure people who don’t want this to pass will probably show up, so it would be nice if we had equal representation there.”
So Dallas area trans peeps and our supporters, Judge Jenkins needs your help. If you can be there, show up on April 26 for that meeting. If you can't, then call or e-mail the Dallas County commissioners court and urge them to vote for the policy .
And yes, you know Moni is going to help you make it easy for you to be agents for your own liberations:
And as always, be nice and respectful while doing so.
County Judge Clay Jenkins – 214-653-7949
Email: Clay.Jenkins@DallasCounty.org
Dist. 1 Maurine Dickey – 214-653-7552
Email: Maurine.Dickey@DallasCounty.org
Dist. 2 Mike Cantrell – 214-653-6100
Email: MCantrell@DallasCounty.org
Dist. 3 John Wiley Price – 214-653-6671
Email: John.Price@DallasCounty.org
Dist. 4 Dr. Elba Garcia – 214-653-6670
Email: Elba.GarciaDDS@DallasCounty.org
Hey Renee, Canada's Going Down In The 2011 IIHF Women's Ice Hockey Championships
Was flipping through the various cable channels a few nights ago when I stumbled upon the third period of the USA-Sweden match in the IIHF women's hockey tournament. Had forgotten the tournament was happening this month in Zürich, Switzerland.and started on April 16.
Don't care if it is 'your game', in this tournament Team USA are the two time defending champs and so far are playing like it.
Team USA was in Group A in the preliminary round and knocked off Slovakia 5-0, Russia 13-1 and Sweden in the aforementioned match 9-1 to win their group and get the bye to the semifinals.
Your Canadian women were in Group B, and beat the host Swiss 12-0, Kazakhstan 7-0 and Finland 2-0 to win their group and also earn a bye into the semis.
The semifinals happening today are group play rematches. Canada plays the Finns while we get the Russians with the winners going to the gold medal match.
The semifinal losers will play for the bronze.medal.
But you know who we want in the gold medal match and it'll be on like Donkey Kong again.
USA! USA! USA!.
Don't care if it is 'your game', in this tournament Team USA are the two time defending champs and so far are playing like it.
Team USA was in Group A in the preliminary round and knocked off Slovakia 5-0, Russia 13-1 and Sweden in the aforementioned match 9-1 to win their group and get the bye to the semifinals.
Your Canadian women were in Group B, and beat the host Swiss 12-0, Kazakhstan 7-0 and Finland 2-0 to win their group and also earn a bye into the semis.
The semifinals happening today are group play rematches. Canada plays the Finns while we get the Russians with the winners going to the gold medal match.
The semifinal losers will play for the bronze.medal.
But you know who we want in the gold medal match and it'll be on like Donkey Kong again.
USA! USA! USA!.
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international sports,
USA,
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Texas A&M Student Senate Forgot That Hate Is Not An Aggie Value
A few months ago I had the pleasure of rolling up to the Texas A&M campus in College Station to do my African American Trans 101 presentation for the GLBT Resource Center.I have had the pleasure of visiting more than a few GLBT centers on various college campuses around the country over the years as I've done these speaking engagements. Even though I'm a proud Cougar alum, the second I stepped into the Texas A&M GLBT Resource Center that day it felt like home even though it's been a while since I cracked open a book or took a class on a college campus.in the Lone Star State.
I had a wonderful time getting reacquainted with Lowell who I met at last year's TTNS and the Aggie students who were in there working on various on and off campus projects, hanging out, doing GLBT center related tasks or just quietly studying. In addition to the love I received just for being the TransGriot, I got their insightful takes on what it's like to be a TBLG college student in the 2k10's. I also got a chance to tell them what it was like for the TransGriot in the early 80's.
In that room over the 36 hours I was visiting Aggieland (and hope I can make it back up there for the 2011 TTNS they are proudly hosting up there) unlike the members of the Texas A&M student senate, the GLBT center students were role modeling the Hate Is Not An Aggie Value slogan.
The Texas A&M Student Senate professes to live by it but some members showed by their actions they don't.
We had discussed the SB 63-106 situation over dinner when I was up there in November. I was not happy to read that on April 20 the conservafool dominated Texas A&M student senate passed S.B. 63-106, AKA the “Sexual Education Equality in Funding Bill” in support of TX Representative Wayne Christian’s amendment to HB 1
It's a veiled attack on the funding of the GLBT Resource Center since our GOP dominated state legislature is cutting $8 million out of the education budget for the next two years.
In reaction to this development an open letter to the Texas A&M Student Senate was penned by a gay Texas A&M student and published in the Dallas Voice. The student signed it An Aggie No More and here's the full text of it..
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Dear Senators:
I once thought that I was an Aggie. Next year will be my 5th year of study. I am a Presidential Endowed Scholar. I attended Fish Camp. I went to football games and yelled until my voice was dead and my ass was red. I joined a FLO. I started two organizations. I received the prestigious Buck Weirus Spirit Award for my contributions to this student body. I have made hundreds of friends, touched hundreds of Aggies’ lives and been touched by thousands more. Yes, I once thought that I was an Aggie.
On April 20th, 2011 the Student Senate made it clear that, in their eyes, I am an Aggie no more.
That day, the student senate told me that I was not worth as much as other Aggies. You told me that breaking the Aggie Honor Code and lying to my fellow students was preferable to you deciding to respect me for who I am.
On that night, S.B. 63-106, otherwise known as the “Sexual Education Equality in Funding Bill” in support of Representative Wayne Christian’s amendment to HB 1 passed. And with its passage, the Student Senate made its position clear: that because I am gay, I am not truly an Aggie.
Now you may be saying to yourself that I’m being overly dramatic, that that was not your intention in passing that bill, or something else along those lines. Some of you may have stopped reading this letter as soon as you saw the words “I am gay”. I would expect nothing less from the 17th least friendly campus for gay, lesbian, bisexual, and transgender (GLBT) students in the country (according to the Princeton review). If you’re still reading, then allow me to explain why I don’t at all feel like I am being melodramatic and state my reasons for concluding that the Student Senate no longer views me as an Aggie:
1. Harming the Texas A&M GLBT
Resource Center was the purpose of this bill, not, as the authors claim,
the creating of centers for the purpose of so-called “traditional
values education.” This is made clear in the second operative clause,
where the opposition of increased student fees to cover this new
“traditional values education” is set forth. The authors of the bill are
not fooling anyone, since the drastic budget cuts make it clear that no
additional government funding is at all likely for this new
“traditional values” education, leaving one clear option: cut the GLBT
Resource Center’s budget in half. This barely concealed attempt to
attack the funding of the biggest support system for GLBT students and
their allies on this campus is not just an attack on some perceived
“immoral lifestyle choice” or whatever phrase people might choose to
use. It is a direct attack on Aggies like myself, a clear “shot over the
bow”, warning us that we are not welcome on this campus.
2. The purpose of this bill was not to
promote equality of funding for support for all students. If that were
indeed the goal, then allow me to point you to several areas where there
is a severe problem. First of all, why is there a Women’s Resource
Center on campus but no Men’s Resource Center? Applying the same logic
that has been applied in the passage of S.B. 63-106, it is clearly
unfair that my student fees, as a male, go toward funding the Women’s
Resource Center, especially if I disagree that women need any special
attention. I should demand equality of funding towards a center that
supports me and my needs as a male. Likewise for the Department of
Multicultural Services, because I as a Caucasian Amercian have no need
of their services. Where is my Department of White American Services?
Clearly, the student body does not have a problem offering support to
the communities of women and multicultural students within the Aggie
family. Thus, singling out support for GLBT students like me sends a
crystal clear message: “you and people like you are not worthy of our
support. Women, multicultural people, those groups deserve support. You
do not.“
3. The assertion that there is not
already “traditional values” education related to sex on this campus is
laughable. Anyone who has taken a KINE 198 class can tell you that only
heterosexual examples are given when discussing romantic or sexual
interactions and the health guidelines related to them. And a mandatory
class is far more pervasive in educating the students of Texas A&M
than a resource center buried in Cain Hall that never requires people to
pass through its doors. The programming that the center offers is
optional for those who wish to attend. There is no requirement that
straight Aggies listen to a discussion of sexual safety for gay men or
lesbian women, but clearly the same is not true for GLBT Aggies. We are
treated to a discussion of straight sexual safety and relationship
guidelines whether we want to be or not. Thus, the assertion that
“alternative sexual education” is being funded more than “traditional
values” sexual education on this campus is not only patently false, but
demeaning to those of us who are consistently maligned for being
attracted to (a) different gender(s) of people than the Student Senate
apparently feels we should be.
Senators, let me reiterate what I said at the beginning of this letter. Next year will be my 5th year of study. I am a Presidential Endowed Scholar. I attended Fish Camp. I went to football games and yelled until my voice was dead and my ass was red. I joined a FLO. I started two organizations. I received the prestigious Buck Weirus Spirit Award for my contributions to this student body. I happen to be gay. I am also a strong Christian, attend a local church, and have a wonderful relationship with my father.
A year ago, all of that almost vanished. I almost became a name read out at Silver Taps Senators, because I was so tired of living the lie, feeling controlled by fear. And the voices that were in my head were delivering the same message that the Student Senate is delivering to the GLBTQ students of this university: you aren’t worth as much as everyone else. I’m not accusing the Student Senate of causing suicides, but the passage of this bill simply reinforces a message that many GLBT people have been hearing their whole lives. Will it take a Tyler Clementi here at Texas A&M before this becomes apparent?
You may think it’s a sin, that I chose to be gay, and that I’m having wild, promiscuous, unprotected sex every chance I get. You may think of me as a faggot, a queer, a poof, a fairy, or a dirty homo. You may think that I will certainly die of AIDS…some of you may even think that I should die because of it. I know people on this campus and in this community who think that I deserve the death penalty for being gay. That is the reality of being gay on this campus, Senators. Even if a GLBT man or woman never once experiences outright discrimination, the knowledge that if it weren’t for Texas politeness they almost certainly would stays with them. It is fear, a constant awareness that we have to have when we’re on a date or walking across campus, an undercurrent of uncertainty about how people will react to us holding hands, wearing a GLBTAggies t-shirt, or standing in front of an Aggie Allies table by the Academic Building.
That is why the GLBT Resource Center is essential. It was part of what kept me alive a year ago, having a community where I knew I could find support, be able to talk to people who knew what I was going through and had the funding and resources to help get me (and every other person who visits the center, gay or straight) the information and support that they need to make it through a day, a week, a year, a lifetime.
Because guess what Senators? Somehow, most of us still love Texas A&M. Despite everything, we still bleed maroon. That’s why we are still here, why we haven’t just up and left, packed our bags, and hit the road for California or New York. The people who work at the GLBT resource center could have just given up years ago; it would have been easier. GLBT Aggies and their allies are still bettering this campus through our involvement in the student body. But we will continue to fight to be recognized fully as Aggies, despite the Student Senate’s clear position that we are not.
In closing, you will notice that my name is not attached to this letter. You may accuse me of cowardice, of choosing to hide behind the cloak of anonymity as I take potshots at you. Then again, you may not. But let me be clear: I have chosen to withhold my name not out of fear, but because you, as a senate body, have lost my trust. Choosing to come out to someone, which is what I would be doing if I included my name, requires trust. However, I do not trust you with my name any more than you as a senate trust that the GLBT students of this campus honestly need the support and resources that the GLBT Resource Center offers. You clearly no longer represent me, so you are no longer entitled to my name.
Maybe when you are willing to repair the damage that you have done to the Aggie Family I might be willing to trust you again.
Sincerely,
An Aggie No More
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Friday, April 22, 2011
The Bathroom Predators Are Cis People
One of the memes coming from 'white' wing opponents and the haters that are used to attack trans rights bills is that ciswomen would be in danger of violence or sexual assault if transwomen are allowed to use female restrooms like we have since 1953 without incident.
But as the following video shot at a Baltimore area McDonald's shows, they got it bassackwards. In reality it's transwomen and our cissisters with ambiguous gender cues who have to fear for our lives and our human dignity when we visit public restrooms.
Either we've been violently attacked by ciswomen or thrown out of bathrooms by misguided cispeople for simply needing to relieve ourselves .
The Mickey D's in question if y'all want to picket is located at 6315 Kenwood Avenue in Rosedale, MD. The video of the April 18 assault was shot by Vernon Hackett, an employee (for now) of the McDonalds in question.
TRIGGER WARNING for this one.
Okay, What's up with trans women and McDonald's attacks? There was the July 10, 2006 Christina Sforza one in New York, then the one that happened in Memphis, now we have this one in the Baltimore 'burbs.
And you Gay, Inc peeps and short time well-to-do Maryland transwomen apologists for them wanted to compromise with Del Joseline Pena-Melnyk and the now departed EQ MD executive director Morgan Meneses-Sheets on public accommodations language in the thankfully dead HB 235?
This is fracking why there is NO COMPROMISING on public accommodations language in trans rights bills. It also emphatically points out that when it comes to who the real bathroom predators are, they are overwhelmingly cis people.
But as the following video shot at a Baltimore area McDonald's shows, they got it bassackwards. In reality it's transwomen and our cissisters with ambiguous gender cues who have to fear for our lives and our human dignity when we visit public restrooms.
Either we've been violently attacked by ciswomen or thrown out of bathrooms by misguided cispeople for simply needing to relieve ourselves .
The Mickey D's in question if y'all want to picket is located at 6315 Kenwood Avenue in Rosedale, MD. The video of the April 18 assault was shot by Vernon Hackett, an employee (for now) of the McDonalds in question.
TRIGGER WARNING for this one.
Okay, What's up with trans women and McDonald's attacks? There was the July 10, 2006 Christina Sforza one in New York, then the one that happened in Memphis, now we have this one in the Baltimore 'burbs.
And you Gay, Inc peeps and short time well-to-do Maryland transwomen apologists for them wanted to compromise with Del Joseline Pena-Melnyk and the now departed EQ MD executive director Morgan Meneses-Sheets on public accommodations language in the thankfully dead HB 235?
This is fracking why there is NO COMPROMISING on public accommodations language in trans rights bills. It also emphatically points out that when it comes to who the real bathroom predators are, they are overwhelmingly cis people.
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