tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20389448.post5437928816408951743..comments2024-03-20T06:44:28.606-05:00Comments on TransGriot: Naw Gay Community, Ain't No Forgiving That Oppressive Flag Or What It RepsMonica Robertshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09702533200851174728noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20389448.post-9475830372749559392016-10-22T23:37:16.839-05:002016-10-22T23:37:16.839-05:00I have the same question as Tuesday Next because I...I have the same question as Tuesday Next because I want to understand.Sissy Blancohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00263649423959104231noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20389448.post-88018031325790615472016-10-22T22:11:02.625-05:002016-10-22T22:11:02.625-05:00Personally, I've not found that forgiving bull...Personally, I've not found that forgiving bullies makes me feel any better. Especially when they aren't exactly sorry and asking for forgiveness. Know what helps? Learning how to build a Self and a life where they don't have power over me, so that I never had to think about them again (except to help others do the same).franceshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13267144201115512650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20389448.post-1868685307173881342016-10-22T09:19:37.160-05:002016-10-22T09:19:37.160-05:00I get why the forgiveness graphic is bad. But why ...I get why the forgiveness graphic is bad. But why is the "Fuck No" one a nonstarter?Tuesday Nexthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04152102188275410106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20389448.post-88447961251935302016-10-22T09:19:31.589-05:002016-10-22T09:19:31.589-05:00Kat, you're talking about forgiving people who...Kat, you're talking about forgiving people who don't have the power to physically hurt you. It's very different when you're asking someone to forgive people who have the power to hurt or kill them and are actively trying to do so. Sometimes anger and fighting are necessary for survival.Tuesday Nexthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04152102188275410106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20389448.post-12052528783749844052016-10-22T09:18:27.408-05:002016-10-22T09:18:27.408-05:00Kat, you're talking about forgiving people who...Kat, you're talking about forgiving people who don't have the power to physically hurt you. It's very different when you're asking someone to forgive people who have the power to hurt or kill them and are actively trying to do so. Sometimes anger and fighting are necessary for survival.Tuesday Nexthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04152102188275410106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20389448.post-74848919771565878282016-10-22T09:14:36.255-05:002016-10-22T09:14:36.255-05:00I get why the forgiveness graphic is bad. But why ...I get why the forgiveness graphic is bad. But why is the "Fuck No" one a nonstarter?Tuesday Nexthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04152102188275410106noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-20389448.post-88539119706588638882016-10-22T09:08:29.795-05:002016-10-22T09:08:29.795-05:00Kat, the thing is that hugging someone (literally ...Kat, the thing is that hugging someone (literally or metaphorically) is, for many people, not going to be a necessary or helpful part of what forgiveness looks like for them. Forgiveness is a vague and loaded word which can be interpreted in quite a few different ways, and not all of those ways *are* a universally appropriate part of healing. Moving on and leaving resentment behind? Yes, that can be very helpful. Seeing the person as someone you can hug? Horses for courses. If it's what worked for you, then I'm happy for you. It isn't going to be right for everyone, and it isn't going to be something that should be expected of everyone.<br /><br />Also, all that is if you're in a position to be able to move on and heal in the first place; which presupposes that the person who hurt you is going to let things drop so that you *can* move on. When we're talking about someone who is actively out for your blood... well, moving on and forgiving them and healing may well be things that are not, practically speaking, options, because you still have the very practical reality of how to deal with their ongoing impact on your life.Dr Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05527764539582203372noreply@blogger.com